This day and age is quite unique in a way. Having a computer is almost as necessary as needing a land line phone or a cell phone. Right up under these two is social media. It is quite the shit. Isn’t it? What do you think? Social media has a whole lot of advantages. It is also interesting, unique, and can take a person to places they’ve never been to before. Even a penniless person can use social media to navigate however they want, to use it to their advantage.
Even if a penniless person does not have access to a phone. When the going gets tough and people in this type of situation cannot afford to pay for phone service nor a prepaid cell phone, nor prepaid cell phone card, there is social media. I’m talking about using Facebook in this case.
The penniless individual can leave loved ones messages to keep them informed of their life activities. Every now and then when I sit down to watch some of my favorite programs (especially some of the live on air television shows), there is usually one individual who uses Facebook to « blast off » at the mouth to other individuals. Usually this pertains to airing their own « dirty laundry ».
This really tickles me sometimes. It seems to me that these same individuals really think that everyone in the world is paying attention to them, or really cares about their real life drama. Some have gotten their fifteen minutes of fame so to speak.
Some do not even realize that within their little « bubble life » environment, they are like a peion. Like a speck of dust amongst a pile of dirt. Numberwise, these same individuals are 1 out of approximately 1.5 billion Facebook users in this world.
So, when they broadcast their private lives, they may only have an audience of 5 to 20 individuals. Facebook is pretty cool. Social media, period kicks ass! And, can be full of surprises as well. These surprises can be pleasant to very pleasant, or down right the kind of surprise that can piss one off.
All in all, I have discovered that I like social media. There are so many sites out there! Even though I don’t date or anything, the founder of one site in particular that I frequent sometimes left me impressed concerning how active he is within his social media community.
Hell, I liked it so much that I even joined the dating group within this community. While the site is new and everything, I feel that while everything is fresh, why not join the band wagon and have a blast! I even formed a group myself!
Now, back to the surprises part concerning Facebook. I received a surprise earlier this week. It was one that down right pissed me off, too. While browsing around my small Facebook community, I found out that an immediate family member of mine befriended my first love’s cousin.
Has anyone ever had a moment where you wanted to ask someone, « What in the fuck were you thinking? » This shit didn’t make any fucking sense to me! O.K. I’m fixing to give you guys a little of information concerning this shit. Almost 21 years ago I met a young man who ended up being my first love.
During the time that we were together, I discovered that I met him once before when both of us were children. He and his family shared their photo albums with me at times. There was one photo in particular I saw that sparked my memory, and took me down memory lane.
That picture was when my first love, his brother, and his late father were dressed in their « Sunday’s best ». I remembered the event that took place the day I met the little boy, who later on became my first love. Me and an older friend of mine were playing a game of dare.
This was one game I discovered I didn’t like because when it was my turn, the stakes were always so high that I always faced getting into trouble. I didn’t think my very pretty friend could come up with such a dare because she was so pretty and innocent looking. It was this day in particular that I stopped playing dare.
I never liked the feeling of being nervous, scared, nor being caused to sweat. It was also on a Sunday I was given my dare quest when I met this older little boy. We made eye contact. When I saw him I became even more scared, then guilty because I was doing this on a church day.
And, it was something I didn’t want to do. Yeah, this was the picture of that fair little kid in his little brown suit, wearing his Sunday’s best. After that moment of meeting that kid, I hoped that we would meet again some day. When we did, that dare game was long forgotten, until that picture was shown to me.
Me and this guy saw one another, I fell in love, cried every time he had to go back to his base in Long Beach, California, met and befriended some of his family members, ate meals with them, went to church with some of them, and exchanged Christmas gifts with one of the family members.
During the time we saw one another I even discovered that both of our dads even attended the same school. Now, here is the situation: My family did indeed meet this guy on many occasions. None of them took the time to know him, participate nor encourage any group events involving him, etc.
Further, my family only gossipped amongst one another(mainly about me getting fucked and when I’d probably get knocked up). My diary was even taken by one of my siblings and shared with my dad!
Thank God half of it was written in Spanish. They couldn’t read nor understand that. The point I’m trying to make is that my family didn’t know shit wadoodle about my first love’s family. Only one relative hung out a few times with one of his cousins.
However, I stopped taking her with me to that cousins house because her behavior was not a good influence on that cousin and for no reason at all she wanted to fight the child. I wasn’t going to have that. No one has a right to go around wanting to fight someone because they are a little innocent and slightly geeky.
Anyway, this other « meatball head » of a family member decided to be friends with this cousin in particular(of my first love), who is all grown up now. He never fucking knew her! What the fuck?!!! No one was ever concerned with what was going on in my life and now this shit! It’s amazing when you think you have closed a chapter in your life. Someone can really open « Pandora’s Box », again.
Before this incident, another family member of mine disrespected Big Momma(identity protected)by requesting to be friends on Facebook with Big Momma’s former best friend. I mean, what the fuck? Her former best friend went through a lifetime of heartache because of Big Momma’s brother, who was seen as a « meal ticket » by some former neighbors in Los Angeles, who got knocked up with another man’s child twice.
This nasty bitch even had the nerve to claim that Big Momma’s brother was the father. While this was going on, Big Momma’s best friend, who had a relationship with Big Momma’s brother originally, really was pregnant with Big Momma’s brother’s child.
The whore down the street even lied about her age(this is what I was told). She really was a ho, though. Big Momma’s best friend ended up getting an abortion because of the heartbreak Big Momma’s brother caused by cheating on her with the whorish tart down the street, who lied to everyone that she was pregnant with this man’s child.
To make things worse, this same man wanted to cheat on his current wife with Big Momma’s former best friend in recent years! Now, she confided in Big Momma to keep this between them and said that she would rather be friends with just Big Momma and no other family members, because of the fact that she didn’t want to be caught up in the past, again,no other issues, etc. would arise.
And, what the fuck happened? One of Big Momma’s sisters browsed Facebook and discovered that Big Momma and her former best friend were now Facebook friends! Big Momma warned the sister that it is not a good idea to bother her former best friend at all.
Big Momma’s sister did it, anyway! Shit! Absolutely no respect! Sometimes I wonder what in the fuck is wrong with people these days. When a relationship between two people is over it is supposed to be over! Everyone should be moving on to meet others, create their own families, and that’s it.
I was pissed when I found this shit out, too! I had to browse Facebook this time because I was trying to find out my kid’s Facebook address and then tried to reach other family members to let them know about her Cinco de Mayo birthday party. After that I decided to coast and browse Facebook, again for a moment. One thing about my family: Because of the horrible pranks some of my siblings have played on me, in my personal life I usually don’t divulge any type of private information, because of their immaturity and what I had to face and deal with concerning their filthy pranks, decisions, etc.
Further, while browsing for the last time, I decided to briefly scroll down to my former first love’s profile. I saw pictures of the well maintained and beautiful lawn he has surrounding his house, his two cute children, and the fact that he’s still a church going man.
Looking at this, I saw and felt good to see that someone other than myself has actually taken the time to achieve their life long goals and actually reap from the achievements. Even though I have yet to achieve mine, I remain working on all of my goals. I’m actually proud of the guy.
Next, I believe that when a relationship is over it is over. Sometimes prowling around into others’ past can bring harm and/or unwanted and raw emotions to the surface that may have been buried long ago. Also, consequences.
To me, this is NEVER safe territory. Unless such information is freely given, or automatically included in a public search, delving into such matters is disrespectful and worse. It is only necessary when answers are needed by the F.B.I., unsolved cases, investigating « deadbeat dads », etc. It is not supposed to be intended for personal entertainment, sabotage, etc. This is real stuff.
These are real people, real families, emotions, etc. Not a game. Especially not chess.